Men Are Different than Women

Sometimes, I just hit the 'next blog' button and browse through whatever comes up. Today there was a lady blogging about things that your husband wants you to know, but probably won't tell you.

A quote from her post, "Just because a man notices another woman doesn’t mean he doesn’t find you attractive. If you have read anything about the differences between men and women, you know that men are more visual than women. They are often excited by what they see. 

It is nearly impossible for a man not to notice a pretty woman, or an ugly one for that matter. It’s something akin to you spotting a sale on that dress you’ve been wanting or the Starbucks signs along the highway; your eyes see it before your brain engages. 

That’s how it is with men. Men are just that way. Your husband might look at a pretty woman as she passes by, but that doesn’t mean he finds her more attractive than you, it just means that his eyes have seen her.” 

I disagreed with this perspective, but finished the post anyway. At the bottom there was a comment that I found amazingly well put. I couldn't have said it better. 

The comment read, "I hope you may see what a trap we are creating, especially as Christians, when we condone a behavior that is just a pathway to Godly and marital separation. There are many Christian books that teach how important it is for both men and women to divert their eyes and to NOT allow a behavior that usually leads to a thought of life outside what is acceptable. God calls us to purity. There is countless evidence that supports that much more goes on than merely admiring someone of the opposite sex. Please be careful about how you are guiding women and men to be accepting of something that is secular and not Christian. That is the belief that “men are just that way.” 

As Christians we are called to sacrifice. Women must sacrifice behaviors that are a result of their flesh in order to serve the Lord and their marriage. And men, need to step up to being the men God called them to be instead of being told it is alright for them to feed their flesh. David’s sin began as a result of him gazing upon Bathsheba. God has given each of us the ability to overcome temptation. I don’t think we are called to forsake all others in our marriage vows to the exception of someone who just happens to catch one’s eye.”

Nuff said.